You know what? There’s a whole lot of misinformation out there about reconnecting with yourself, which is why it’s easy to feel defeated when you’re doing everything “right” and still not seeing the results you want.

Before I learned how to truly reconnect with myself, I tried every guide and article I could find. Expert #1 would say to “just meditate” and expert #2 would say “go on a retreat,” but I still didn’t feel the deep connection I was seeking.

Many people think that putting yourself last is the best way to reconnect with yourself because it’s what they’ve always been told – being selfless means you’re a good person, right?

Others struggle with feelings of guilt when they consider taking time for themselves, making it harder for them to truly reconnect with who they are. I learned that reconnecting with yourself isn’t about being selfish. It’s about giving yourself permission to prioritize your own needs, your growth, and your well being.

You absolutely should NOT keep pushing your needs aside in favor of others! I used to believe that if I didn’t meet everyone else’s expectations first, I’d be failing them – and failing myself. But after years of trying to “do it all,” I realized I wasn’t doing anyone any good, least of all myself.

Once I finally started setting boundaries, carving out time for self care, and creating space for my own growth, I began to experience what it truly feels like to reconnect with myself. You can do it too! Read on for some sneaky limiting beliefs that may be holding you back from reconnecting with yourself and how to turn them into your superpowers.

Limiting Belief #1: I Have to Take Care of Everyone Else First Before Reconnecting with Myself

If you’ve spent most of your life taking care of others – whether it’s your family, career, or friendships – you can probably relate to this one. You might feel like you’re being a bad person if you put your needs ahead of others.

How to turn it into a superpower: First, challenge your belief. After all, it’s just a belief – and you don’t have any real proof that it’s reality (spoiler: It’s NOT!). Ask yourself why you feel like you have to be last on the list. Is it because you feel guilty if you don’t? Or because you fear disappointing others? Once you have the answers, think about what it would be like to turn this belief around. Imagine if taking care of yourself first actually made you a better friend, mother, wife, or colleague. Wouldn’t that make it easier to show up for the people you love?

You don’t have to take action now. Just let it sit with you and try to broaden your perspective. When you’re ready, here are a few resources available to support your self love journey:

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Limiting Belief #2: I Don’t Have Time to Focus on Myself

“I’ll focus on reconnecting with myself once I get through this busy seasson.” Sound familiar? We all have a to do list, and often the things that make us feel good fall to the bottom of that list. But what if reconnecting with yourself didn’t require big blocks of time? Could those small moments add up?

The truth is, if you truly want to reconnect with yourself, you have to make it a priority, no matter how busy you are.

How to turn it into a superpower: Here’s how you can take small, intentional steps to turn this belief around:

1. Start small – take 10 minutes every morning to check in with yourself and how you’re feeling.
2. Prioritize your own well being, even if it’s just for a few minutes each day.
3. Use your voice – say “no” when you feel overextended and put your own needs first.

The small steps lead to big change, and those little moments of reconnection will grow into something powerful.

Limiting Belief #3: I’m Not Worth the Time or Effort

How many times have you told yourself, “I don’t deserve to take this time for me”? You’re not alone. This is a belief that comes from deep rooted fears, feelings of guilt, or perfectionism. When you believe you’re not worth the time or effort, it’s hard to make space for yourself. But the truth is, you are worth it. your well being is important, and putting time into reconnecting with yourself isn’t selfish; it’s essential.

How to turn it into your superpower: Start by practicing small acts of self love – things like speaking kindly to yourself, taking a few minutes to breathe deeply, or allowing yourself to rest. Take it from me – I thought I wasn’t worth the time, but once I gave myself permission to prioritize my needs, everything changed. You can absolutely reconnect with yourself, too!

Limiting Belief #4: I Don’t Know Where to Start with Reconnecting with Myself

Feeling overwhelmed by the thought of reconnecting with yourself is completely normal. If you don’t know where to start, it’s easy to feel stuck. The truth is, reconnecting with yourself doesn’t require a grand gesture. It starts with one step at a time.

How to turn it into your superpower: To get started –

1. Take a moment to ask yourself how you feel. Just the simple act of checking in with your emotions is a powerful first step.
2. Look for the small, consistent changes that will help you feel more aligned with who you truly are.
3. Celebrate your victories, no matter how small – they add up to meaningful change.

Remember, you don’t need to have it all figured out. Just taking one step toward self connection will begin to shift your mindset.

Putting It All Together

You’re making great progress! It’s time to turn your limiting beliefs into empowering beliefs! If you find yourself procrastinating on reconnecting with yourself, take a moment to write down your limiting beliefs. Seeing them on paper makes it easier to change them.

We all have limiting beliefs, but it’s what we choose to do with them that matters. Will you push through and keep going? Absolutely! I created a free workbook to help you get started. Remember, you can always reach me here photographybyambercarl@gmail.com. Let’s get you back to feeling truly connected to who you are.