When you first set out to reconnect with your partner on a deeper level, the mere idea of it might keep you up at night. You school through picture perfect couples on social media and start wondering – why do we feel more like roomates than lovers lately? Are we missing some magic relationship reset button? Enter my Hawaii Coupples Retreat.

Because chances are, there’s no secret ingredient. It’s just that some couples have already taken the time to pause, reflect, and reconnect – often with the help pof something like a retreat.

So in this post I’m going to help pyou shake off that “we’re too busy” or “maybe someday” mindset and start feeling confident about saying yes to the kind of connection you both deserve.

I’m breaking down 9 surprisingly powerful strategies to revive your relationship – without awkward therapy sessions or overwhelm.

Make sure you read to the end – there’s a bonus strategy that just might be the most important one of all.

1. Forget about waiting until “the perfect time” for a Hawaii Couples Retreat

If you want to feel truly connected again, the idea that you need to wait until work slows down or the kids are older is a trap. Instead, you have to make the time.

This is #1 on the list because too many couples spend years putting their relationship on the back burner. But disconnection doesn’t fix itself.

Be careful not to wait too long. When you keep putting off intentional time together, the emotional distance can grow.

Instead, prioritize each other now. One of the best ways? A dedicated getaway like my Hawaii Coupples Retreat.

For example, the couples who attend my retreats don’t wait until things are “bad.” They come because they want to be present again. They crave laughter, touch, eye contact – and leave more in love than when they arrived.

2. Hold off on “just powering through”

You don’t need to suffer silently or feel guilty for wanting more connection.

This doesn’t mean you can’t lean on each other during hard seasons, but powering through without replenishment leads to resentment.

Instead, choose reest and reconnection. That might look like saying yes to a Hawaii couples retreat that gives you space to reset.

Watch this short video from one of my past retreats to see how this experience can help you feel like a team again.

This is from my Hawaii Women’s Retreat but you can see that even a few days away together – without distractions – can shift everything.

3. Supercharge your intimacy with intentional time away at my Hawaii Couples Retreat

Before you jump into couples counseling or another big effort, start with something simple: dedicated, unninterrupted time.

That’s why retreats are so powerful – they remove the everyday noise and help you see each other clearly again.

If you’re serious about deepening your connection, you have to create space for it.

My Hawaii Couples Retreat gives you the gift of time – something most relationships desperately need.

4. Always prioritize presence over perfection

Regardless of what your relationship looks like now, showing up with your full attention is always the right move.

If you take the time to be fully present – to listen, touch, share, you’ll both feel seen again. And from there, so much healing happens.

Pro tip: Leave your phones in the room for an hour a day. Just be together.

For example: Just watching the sunrise together hand in hand without speaking can be the biggest shift Just feeling togetherness.

5. Get clarity and guidance when you need it

It’s easy to feel like you should know how to fix things on your own. But most of us were never taught how to tend to a relationship with intention.

When you’re stuck, don’t stay there.

So if you’re struggling to reconnect, feel more like teammates than lovers, or just crave more fun again – it maybe time to reach out to someone like me.

I host immersive couples retreats that combine play, rest, and guidance – all designed to bring you back to each other.

If you’d like to grab the very last spot for our upcoming Hawaii Couples Retreat, click here to schedule a discovery call.

6. Level up your relationship with the Gottman Card Decks app

Have you seen the Gottman Card Decks? It’s a free app filled with powerful conversation starters, intimacy questions, and relationship building activities.

We use it during my retreat during our slow morning coffee chats and beachside evening talks.

Every time a deeper convo is needed, we pull a card. After a journaling session or couples photoshoot, we use it to share what we’re noticing about each other. And sometimes, we just use it for laughs – which is connection too.

There are other tools out there, but this one’s simple and so powerful.

7. Use the “Reconnect Ritual” we practice at every couples retreat

Most people will tell you to plan a weekly date night. And that’s lovely – but it doesn’t always create emotional closeness.

At my retreats, we use what I call the Reconnect Ritual – a short guided practice where you sit face to face, breathe together, and answer a few heart centered questions.

It’s quiet, vulnerable, and beautiful.

Once we started doing this in every couple’s session, I watched the atmosphere of the room shift. Couples softened. They reached out for each other more.

The ritual is part of every Hawaii couples retreat I lead – and I now use it in my couples boudoir photo sessions as well.

Click here to download a version of it for free.

8. Put it down on paper

There’s a lot that goes into keeping your relationship strong, and a shared written intention can help.

Here’s what to include in your connection plan:

• One shared goal for the next 30 days.
• One weekly check in question.
• A list of what brings you both joy.
• A date night idea bank.
• Space to reflect on what’s working.

Check back every month and adjust. A simple plan keeps you both anchored.

9. Bonus! Download the Free Reconnect Ritual

Wow, you made it all the way here. You deserve a cookie – and my Recconect Ritual PDF.

Click here to download it now and keep these strategies close.

Wrapping it up

I hope this post showed you that every step you take toward reconnecting is a win.

So raise your hand, reach around, and pat yourself on the back. Love takes work – and you’re showing up.

From choosing presence over perfection to embracing the Reconnect Ritual…

…you’re doing the work.

And if you’re ready to say YES to real change and amke time for the relationship that matters most…

There’s one spot left at my Hawaii Couples Retreat. It’s May 20-24, 2025 so it’s coming up fast but if you’re considering it at all, please reach out. I’d love to work something out with you to make it happen.

This last spot is waiting for the two of you.

Let me know in the comments – what strategy are you trying first? Or click here to chat with me about the final spot before it’s gone. Have questions? You can always reach out and ask me here.